Tulang Rusuk

Al-Alusi menyatakan hal yang sama dengan Al-Zamakhsyari yaitu tugas laki-laki memimpin perempuan sebagai mana pemimpin memimpin rakyat dalam bentuk perintah, larangan dan yang semacamnya.

Telah diriwayatkan bahwa Asma’ bin Kharijah al-Fazaari berkata kepada anaknya ketika anaknya menikah, “Sesungguhnya engkau  telah keluar dari kehidupanmu, tempat engkau tumbuh. Engkau akan pindah ke tempat tidur orang yang belum pernah engkau kenal. Seorang teman yang tidak pernah akrab denganmu. Jadilah engkau bumi baginya, maka ia akan menjadi langit bagimu. Jadilah engkau lantai baginya, maka ia akan menjadi tiang bagimu. Jadilah engkau budak perempuan baginya, maka ia kan menjadi budak laki-laki bagimu. Jangan pernah engkau menjauhinya, maka ia akan meninggalkan kamu. Apabila ia dekat denganmu, maka dekatkanlah dirimu kepadanya. Dan apabila ia menjauh darimu, maka jauhkanlah dirimu darinya. Jagalah penciumannya, pendengarannya, penglihatannya dari hal-hal yang akan merusak. Janganlah engkau mencium darinya kecuali kebaikan. Dan jangan membuat dirinya mendengar darimu kecuali kebaikan. Dan janganlah ia melihat kepadamu kecuali kebaikanmu.”

Ibarat kata, istri seyogyanya menjadi tumpuan dan sandaran bagi suami dalam keadaan apapun serta menjaga harkat martabat keluarganya.

Dalam pandangan Islam, perempuan bukanlah musuh atau lawan kaum laki-laki. Sebaliknya, perempuan dan laki-laki adalah satu kesatuan dimana perempuan diciptakan dari tulang rusuk belakang sebelah kiri laki-laki. Perempuan adalah pelengkap lak-laki dan laki-laki adalah pelengkap perempuan. Perempuan adalah bagian dari laki-laki dan laki-laki adalah bagian dari perempuan.

Rasulullah SAW berwasiat kepada kaum laki-laki untuk selalu menjaga istri-istrinya: “Berikan nasihat kepada istri-isri kalian, sebab wanita diciptakan dari tulang rusuk yang bengkok. Yang paling bengkok dari tulang rusuk tersebut adalah bagian atas. Jika kalian salah dalam meluruskannya, niscaya ia akan patah. Dan jika kalian membiarkannya (tidak  meluruskannya), niscaya ia akan tetap bengkok. Oleh karena itu, nasihati mereka dengan cara yang baik.”

Dimana dengan arti, wanita itu diciptakan dari tulang rusuk laki-laki, apabila ada yang bengkok pada tulang rusuk, maka kamu para lelaki hendaklah meluruskannya. Bila kamu meluruskannya berarti kamu akan memamatahkannya, dan didalamnya ada kebengkokan, maka hati-hati dalam memperlakukannya.

Allah SWT memberikan kemuliaan kepada seorang istri dengan menjadikan semua urusan kehidupannya berada dalam tanggungan suami. Dan tanpa diragukan lagi, laki-laki memang memiliki derajat yang lebih tinggi dari pada perempuan seperti halnya Allah SWT berfirman:

“Kaum laki-laki itu adalah pemimpin bagi kaum wanita, oleh karena Allah telah melebihkan sebagian mereka (laki-laki) atas sebagian yang lain (wanita) dan karena mereka (laki-laki) telah menafkahkan sebagian harta mereka. Sebab itu maka wanita yang salehah adalah yang taat kepada Allah dan memelihara diri ketika suaminya tidak ada.…………” (an-Nisa 4: 34)

“Dan para wanita mempunyai hak-hak yang seimbang dengan kewajibannya menurut cara yang makruf. Akan tetapi para suami mempunyai satu tingkatan kelebihan dari istrinya. Dan Allah Mahaperkasa lagi Mahabijaksana.” (al-Baqarah 2: 228)

Rasulullah telah memberikan teladan baik dalam memuliakan dan memperlakukan perempuan.

pdlik – AM

tgw - MAAA

And then

You will always love that people who are always checking on you every time, right? I mean, make sure you’ve arrived safe or not, calling 30 times when you’re not reply their messages, scold you when you driving alone at night, always chatty remind you to take a rest, opened the door for you, respect and appreciate you, listen to your bad day, lend a shoulder when you fucking sad, make you feel safe, become a leader for you and take control of you.

And I’m very grateful for having them around me. simply thankful for your existence whether I am meant to be a part of it or not.

I’d loved that people who know exactly what they want. People who knows his own mind. Even when they didn’t know what they want but at least they exactly know what they didn’t want to happen. And I’m clearly know about something that I don’t want to happen in my life, and it was losing you..

Obviously

If two people really love each other and then they separate, it does not mean they should be together today. Wait for the right time. When all was ready, so togetherness could be a great gift for those who are patient. While waiting, busy yourself to continue to be a better person. Time and distance will reveal the big secrets, whether your affection is greater or fading.

Love’s learned about sincere, gratitude and patience. Indeed, because God is always paired two imperfect beings, but can complement each other.

God created you deliberately imperfect, because someday God will bring someone who could make you perfect.

When A Woman Said Us

Let's talk about something more general, such as a woman.
I think the definition of a women really difficult to interpret in words.
Women have an ability to do many things at once. Somehow it just happens naturally.
When we were still sitting in elementary school we envision things that are very difficult to be realized. Like being a princess in a magnificent palace, many servants who will help us wearing glass shoes, wear beautiful dresses and danced with the handsome prince, each girls would crave how their wedding will be held, what gown to wear, where they will hold a wedding reception, how to order the decor and many other Disney stuff that I can not mention here.
But every dream of a sweet 8 years old girl need a big effort to achieve it. The world is not as sweet as chocolate candies and not as beautiful as Disney. We must deal with our sweet friends who stab us in the back, face to face with our own bodies when menstruating, dealing with man masher who expects our love without even trying, dealing with a male friend of us who always underestimate us, dealing with exam, acne, diet, wrinkled and many more. Really, it's still a bit of hurdles that I say here.
Women are complicated. we can't say obviously what we feel because our pride is high, we always succumb when there is contention, we cry alone in the middle of the night, we were always waiting, and we always hide our wounds.
We were such a little magic, come on guys admit it...
We always say "I'm okay, just forget it" oh for God's sake, for all of you man in this world don't believe in that answer, Because that fucking frustrating which is mean "you have to figure out what you done" And when we say "leave me alone" it means "don't go because I need you". When we get angry and chatty, believe me. Just listen. Because we really care about you. 
A woman is very complicated. Ranging from friendship and love relationship. We need a crazy friends because we believe that a crazy friend has a mouth like a neat arrangement of library books which is mean she's a keeper. We need a boyfriend or a husband look like Mr. Darcy who never giving up on us, mature, brave and full of responsibility. when a women let a man come into her life, it mean don't break anything. Loved her more, treat her well, cherish her, swept her tears when she cried, hug her when she down, protect her, don't try to doubting her feeling because she love you so much.
well, i can't explain everything here about woman. because that fucking long  . I'll explain more at another chance... bye bye^^

Being a Bitch~ with slay

Once upon a time I was sweet and innocent, and then idiot happened. I’m a bad girl.
And I think everyone know that. Too much being hurt makes me think like a bitch. I’m a selfish bitch (IN A GOOD MEANING YA!)

Being a bitch means,
I stand up for myself and my belief. I stand up for those who I love. I speak my mind, think my own thoughts or do things my way. I won’t compromise what’s in my heart. I live my life my way. I refuse to tolerate injustice. It means I have the courage & strength to allow myself to be me. That’s a bitch I mean.

well, I speak up for every girls out there who still ashamed and think that you’re not good enough about yourself, be brave honey. Indeed life is hard, and it’s illegal on this planet to stab every person for being stupid. There is somebody i know out there told me that “honey, you’re not pretty enough to be that stupid” So make it works while you can. Learn what you can learn. Being bitch to people who underestimate you then see the funny expressions on their face after they see what you really can do is fucking priceless.

It sucks, doesn’t it? Feeling that you are not good enough… oh come on, wake up dear, if you are always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be…

I know I know, I stood up for my self. I’m such a bitch.
So darling, go buy a personality for your self...


aku nulis tulisan diatas tahun 2015, dan skrg aku baca ulang lagi tahun 2018. dan aku jadi mikir skrg, "dapat darimana gue kata-kata sebijak itu". wkwkwkwkwkk

Won't We, 18dtk?

hi….
Okay, that's sound cheesy but there is something bla bla bla which is make me want to talking about my cute-beauty-crazy-sweet-mature-everything friends. So, let’s start it…
Well, I met them a year ago on college when we full of shy, full of something you called “jaim”, compliment about each other and now we turning like “remember, if we get caught, your deaf and I don’t speak English nor Bahasa”  and like this  “answer my text message or you’re going to get more text message”. I don’t know is it just me who feel like we really crazy or indeed every one in this friendship literally has a little genes called it “idiots” wkwkwk (oh come on guys, sorry. I didn’t mean it)
We spent much time together, likes gossiping, sarcasm (this one is my favorite wkwkwk :D ), being offended which turning to laugh, bullying each other (eeeiii you guys seriously), being fucking scared because that horror or thriller movie, being jealously when someone got something lucky, being sad when we don’t have any idea what Mr. Kar explain at all, being rush to get strategic place when we has exam or quiz, being hysteric when one of us become "buron" (oops). I can’t say everything here, but seriously, we really have fun-sad-freak-crazy-happy-sweet time all this time.
Dhania, Dita, Egik, Feira, Sonya (don’t asking me. I do alphabetically) lovu always ^^ have you guys still remember when we still have a cake on Feira’s birthday although ten minutes later we have a test on Mrs. Rin’s class, seriously, we even late at that time :D
“my maturity level depends on who I’m with” that words is 100% true, how can when I’m with you guys I’m turning to a spoiled crazy girl. Is it just me who feel it or you guys feel that too..? (let’s skip it :D)
There is much memories that we made^^
We'll be friend forever. Won't we, guys...? Won't we, 18?